The way the very common act of queefing affects people varies, but it’s not unusual to feel embarrassed or frozen in the moment as you try to understand how it happened. I mean, what do you do or say? Should you feel ashamed? (Never!) Do they only happen during sex? Because the passageway of your vaginal canal has ridges, curves, and grooves, air doesn’t always seamlessly enter and exit. That means queefs can happen “in any situation where air is pushed or trapped in the vagina and is expelled,” explains Roskin, “like when an object is inserted in the vagina and removed or when the body changes positions.” Although it can happen by yourself, the most common occurrence of queefing is during penetrative sex, according to Marla Renee Stewart, M.A., a sex educator and expert for Lovers sexual wellness brand and retailer. “When a person with a vagina is aroused, the vagina expands like a balloon,” which she says causes air to sometimes get sucked in by the vagina. “Imagine doing a Kegel exercise—expansion—and then bearing down—like [contracting].” But that’s not the only time you might experience a queef. Roskin says air can easily get trapped and escape during activities like yoga and stretching, “where the vagina might be more open.” She also says anything inserted into the vagina, including tampons, menstrual cups, and dildos, can also cause queefing. Queefing is as normal as drinking water, breathing, eating, using the bathroom, and everything else we do without a second thought. In every instance that it’s possible to queef, you have nothing to be sorry or feel self-conscious about. Now, there are different types of vaginas, which means some vagina owners might experience queefing more or less than others. “Some people are more anatomically prone to queefing based on the shape and length of their vagina,” explains Roskin. Even the lubrication of your vagina can cause queefing, but she advises against trying to dry out your vagina in an effort to avoid it. Besides that, the structure of your pelvic floor can also factor into the occurrence of queefing. “Some report an increased frequency during pregnancy and menopause, as well as at certain phases in their cycle—such as [ovulation]—when the pelvic floor may be weaker.” There’s nothing wrong with queefing a lot. “If you have other accompanying symptoms, such as a bad odor, pain, or irritation,” says Roskin, “you should consult your gynecologist or a medical professional.” Otherwise, you can queef in peace knowing it poses no gynecological risks and shouldn’t be a cause for concern. Honestly, not much. But here’s one thing: Roskin warns that this method isn’t proven to be entirely effective, but you might find it helps to stick to sex positions that can help make the vagina less open—like traditional missionary position—and avoiding positions like doggy style or reverse cowgirl where the person with a vagina is on top. However, Roskin reminds us that “the best thing to do is to accept that queefing is normal and natural, and try not to worry about it!” Stewart agrees. While it may be possible to prevent or reduce queefing by being choosy about your sex positions, she says doing so “would take you into your mind and out of your body’s pleasure, so I don’t recommend thinking about what your vagina is or isn’t doing.” It might take some time to build up this response when it happens during sex, but Stewart says, “As long as your vagina is experiencing fun, that’s all you should be worrying about.” Co-sign. This is your body, and you deserve to be proud of it! Focus more on maintaining a healthy vagina, getting to know all your erogenous zones, and enjoying all the pleasure that your vagina can give you.
